Growing apart

Moving is meant to mark the start of something new

Living next door from each other turns…

one) into long phone calls,

regular, yet decreasing over time,

two) into the promise of getting together again soon,

dates getting pushed back further and further

into the horizon until barely visible,

three) into long periods of radiosilence, unbearable at first

but over time they become somewhat of a

routine,

a habit, a

reality

four) on your friendship,

two forlorn figures

standing in the shadows

wistfully looking towards the distance

that now parts them

How foolish of me to not notice

that moving means leaving

the old

behind.

Better luck next time.

18 thoughts on “Growing apart

  1. This hits me hard.
    I moved from my home-state, lost many many friends in the process, and didn’t know what to do with myself for a looong time afterwards. But like you said, moving means leaving the old behind. And sometimes, sometimes that isn’t such a horrible thing, ya know? You get to rebuild yourself from the ashes they left behind.
    It hurts – of course it does – but it’s SO worth all the pain. Use it to help others in the process 🙂

    Thanks for sharing this! It has me in a mood…

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    1. I’m glad you can relate. I agree, I think a fresh start isn’t necessarily bad, sometimes you can really need it (even though you might not realise that at the moment). Growing apart will always be hard but you learn to adjust to new circumstances. 🙂

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  2. This has a sad tone, but is really poetic and beautiful to read. It reminds me of the naivety I use to have when I believed that distance didn’t mean much. I’ve lost friends and relationships to it, and sometimes distance means life changing in other directions.
    And that habit part – again, so true! It becomes normal to no longer expect to see someone. Thank you for sharing this – it’s been of my favourite things to read 🙂 xx

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    1. Thank you Laura! Your comment made me really happy. I completely agree with you. Like you I have been a little naive sometimes when it comes to this situation which actually resulted in me feeling more hurt. Reality can be hard to face sometimes but in the end it saves a lot of pain. xx

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  3. the last sentence was solid. as we go through life i guess people know that they would have to choose and lose things along the way. but sometimes i just thought to myself, what really is the point of new connections and having the “next time” opportunities if you would round up eventually losing some, or most of it?

    beautiful poem nonetheless. i think it hits a lot of people’s moods!

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    1. I agree. It’s easy to lose hope sometimes, it really is. But I must say, that even though I grew apart from a few people I used to call my best friends, I still wouldn’t have it any other way. I learnt so much from the whole experiences and friendships, not everything being bad.

      Thank you so much, I am happy that you enjoyed it!

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  4. This hits me quite hard, I’ve lost quite a few friendships over the last year as part of the growing up process and it’s been a struggle at times. But I’ve also met some of my favourite people in the last couple of years too, so I see it that we have to let go of some things to welcome better things into our lives 🙂
    Alys
    http://www.alysjournals.com

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    1. Same! I think throughout our lives we all lose and gain friends – it’s natural for people to drift apart. Doesn’t make it less painful though when it’s happening. But for me, a lot of the times, I realised in hindsight that it was probably for the best.

      Thank you so much for reading, Alys!

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  5. Like nearly everyone in the comments, it hits hard.

    I guess everyone has had a painful experience of moving apart from their loved ones.

    You writing style is really creative.

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    1. I’m glad it could evoke some feelings in you!

      I think so too. In a way, it’s a natural progress in life. People change, they grow up, they want different things. In the end, I think it’s important to grieve those losses, but also accept them for what they are. Because in the most cases, it’s never JUST bad. I have taken away a lot of valuable lessons from those once close to me. I am thankful for that. But yes, painful it is.

      Thank you so very much my dude, really means a lot coming from you.

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  6. Oh dear, I just saw this, and I could cry now.

    I can’t even count the number of friends I’ve lost over the years. People I called best friends are now just people I used to know. My dad’s job includes us having to move every two years, and every time I wish to make better friends, ones that will actually last through the distance. Never really worked.

    Now that I’m going to start college, I’ll be in the same place for a minimum of three years, just like every other person around me, and hopefully I’ll be able to make stronger relationships then.

    Better luck next time, indeed 🙂

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    1. I am so happy that this resonated with you (even though it’s for a sad reason). I think your situation is probably an extremely hard way to grow up and I admire you so much for being so strong through all of it. I am confident that these three years will be good for you! 🙂

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